Dating from a single guy.

Due to some reoccuring pushes I've decided to start blogging. I'm one of those people that are always thinking. Every hour of the day I am thinking about something. Sometimes they're thoughts that I feel I could share with others, sometimes they're just things that I can just laugh about. (I'm one of those people that always thinks about funny thigns and laughs out loud, makes me look like a loser quite a bit.)

After work today I had a couple of minutes so I was reading and listening to a Mark Driscoll sermon. It was one of those Q & A times he has, and someone posed the question, "Should women pursue men?" I adding my disclaimer now, I am not a relational expert. Although I might want to give this question a stab in the dark. At no point should a woman pursue a man. A woman that feels that she should pursue a man needs to tell this particular person to man up, and decide. Now subtle hints don't work, guys just don't pick that kind of thing up. We as men do need help, but not to the point where a woman feels as though she needs to pursue the man and lead the courtship, relationship, marriage or even friendship. Men are meant to do the pursuing and the leading. If a guy doesn't feel that they are, then they must repent from that feeling and take the lead. Men: pursue, Women: allow yourself to be pursued. Should a woman pursue a man? No Can a woman strategically put herself in the path or view of the man? Yes. If a woman doesn't feel as though she is being pursued and she is in "courtship" with a man, then that conversation needs to be had. It takes two people to have a relationship. Woman you can help the man lead without taking the lead. Guys if you aren't pursuing a woman that you're "courting" then stop wasting her time. You're not treating her well enough, and she deserves better than that. I'll be the first to admit I am guilty of being a coward at times, I am guilty of not pursuing as a I should, both in my friendships and any relationship I have had. I once asked my good friend Tom who has been married to his awesome wife Carolyn once,"Tom what has made your marriage with Carolyn a success?" He then answered,"Team work." Two words: Team Work. Team work in following Jesus, and team work in saying,"Let's make this work" Men pursue your woman past the point that you think will make them feel pursued. Maybe two people can team up and make this work.